mother’s day gossip

May 13, 2007

Poor Joan –
she never married.

And Leslie
never had children.

And wasn’t it a shame
about Marla?

Too bad –
she was such a pretty girl…

9 Responses to “mother’s day gossip”

  1. chughes Says:

    This reminds me of sitting around my grandmother’s table.

    We often do these things, women.

    ~christine

  2. qazse Says:

    It probably served an adaptive function at some points in the evolution of societies; probably in the development of social mores.

  3. Heather Says:

    It saddens me that a woman can’t be whole in the eyes of other women all on her own.

    We need a man, a child…

    I think I am pretty damn great just me!

    But then again, we see that I have issues with going along with society’s expectations…

  4. Jules Says:

    Funny line “…she was such a pretty girl…” as if pretty is the end-all-be-all characteristic of motherhood. We often have a similar, yet flipped around version of this conversation with my parents and siblings. Some women we know are in their “late thirties” and aren’t married. My mother says, “oh they are just too wise or too good for men to deserve.” It makes me wonder how it was that I ended up married with children…

  5. qazse Says:

    Heather, Yes, a woman is fine and complete standing on her own.
    Jules, yes, that would make me wonder…what does your mom say when you point it out?
    Regarding the “pretty” comment – I would hear it often, as if it was okay for bad stuff to happen to the “unattractive”.

  6. zaphodfreek Says:

    Qazse,
    sometimes you are just so brilliant it’s difficult to put it into words.

  7. qazse Says:

    z-freek, thanks for the flattering comment. I will take credit for the many revisions and re-writes. The sweat.

  8. howard Says:

    …as if it was okay for bad stuff to happen to the “unattractive”.

    – you mean it isn’t? Several years ago, I dated a girl who was (by most other peoples’ accounts) stunningly gorgeous. After I discovered some of what lay beneath the surface, there was no amount of superficial decoration that could make me forget how unattractive she seemed to me.

    Of course that’s mildly off point, but it was something that occurred to me when I read the above comments. And zaphodfreak put into words something I’ve tried to say before, which is why I often feel no compliment I could conjure would do justice to my internal response to your writing.

    As always, great stuff.

  9. qazse Says:

    howard, so true about looks. So many go through life feeling inadequate about something which should be regarded as incidental. I believe it is because of the way we are wired to propagate the species we find ourselves in.

    I appreciate your positive remarks about my stuff. I am blessed with thoughtful and talented readers such as yourself. I was also blessed with a broad spectrum of education and life experience which put me in touch with many wonderful people, thinkers, and lessons. All have been an inspiration to me.

    Hey, let me know when you are having your next Philly blogger meeting. I have a project I wanted to discuss with you.

    peace


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